How to Become a Confident Woman in a Challenging World!

It is a life where through your gifts, talents, and resources you bless the lives of those around you, and confidence is a key factor in achieving this.



No matter how you start out in life, you have an opportunity to finish well. You are already blessed to live a significant life that glorifies God.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and Multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. ————-GENESIS 1:27-28

To finish well is to live life to fulfill down to the last detail of what God has called you to do.

I have glorified thee on the earth: I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do. —– JOHN 17:4

It is a life where through your gifts, talents, and resources you bless the lives of those around you, and confidence is a key factor in achieving this.

Here are some tips on how to become a confident woman:

Discover your strengths
It is important to always operate in the area of strengths, rather than in the area of your weaknesses and the first step in discovering your strengths is to find out what you are passionate about by asking God about what He has created you to do.

Your passions are usually tied to your gifts and you will gain confidence in your gifts if you train in them by allowing yourself to take on life experiences where they are required.

For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. —— 1 Corinthians 7:7

Mind your presentation
People always look at your appearance before they hear what you have to say so see to it that the way you dress, calls for compliments and facial expressions that will lift your spirit and make you feel confident.

Clothe yourself with your strengths
Keep away from always talking about the negative things in your life. Generally, everybody gets to deal with something bad at a certain point in their lifetime.

Timothy Keller put it this way, “No amount of money, power, and planning can prevent bereavement, dire illness, relationship betrayal, financial disaster, or a host of other troubles from entering your life. Human life is fatally fragile and subject to forces beyond our power to manage. Life is tragic.”
― Timothy Keller, Walking with God through Pain and Suffering

You notice that people tend to talk more about the positives in their lives and that draws us to them because they embody confidence and strength.

You too can become a confident person if you focus more on what is going right for you. In fact, being positive in mind and in speech helps you get creative about overcoming the bad.

Take up opportunities to serve others
We all would love to be talked about as great people but service is the heart of greatness and like I earlier said, we become confident in our gifts and talents by putting them to use.

But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant. —- Mathew 23:11

So if there is an opportunity to give of yourself to others, take it even if there is no payment attached to it. It is an opportunity to polish your skills and maybe come to a level of people paying for your time just to partake of your gift.

With those few remarks, I am glad that for the years you have left, you will confidently walk through every single day as you work on fulfilling down to the last detail of what God has called you to do.

May the peace of God that passes on all understanding be with you

May you always be driven by your dreams and not controlled by your circumstances

10 Signs of a Confident Woman That You Should Full on Copy!

In an ideal world, we would all be confident women and know exactly what we want and how to get it.

Confidence is a beautiful thing to have but unfortunately, a lot of us lack when it comes to being a confident woman.

Things that have perhaps happened to us in childhood and as we begin to grow up shape the way that we look at the world and even how we feel about ourselves.

There is one thing that people get confused about when we start to talk about confidence and that is the difference between being confident and being arrogant.

They are very different things even though at surface level they can seem similar.

Confidence draws people to you whilst arrogance pushes others away.

Today lets talk about what a confident woman looks like and what makes her so special.

10 Signs of a confident woman


1. They know they are not perfect and accept that

None of us are perfect let’s just get that out there right now.

No matter what you think you see on social media all of us are lacking in some area. No one has a perfect life.

As they say, the grass always looks greener on the other side.

A confident woman knows this.

A confident woman accepts herself for who she is, flaws and all and is happy to embrace her imperfect self.

2. Never compare

It’s hard sometimes to not compare your life to that of someone else’s but the truth is that we don’t really know what someone else’s life entails.

We only see what the other person allows us to see.  What they want us to see.

For this very reason, it is pointless to compare yourself to the next woman.

You can never be her and she can never be you.

You are the best possible version of yourself that there can ever be.  Any confident woman knows this.

Comparison is a confidence killer.

3. Remains positive

Even when things are not going as planned a confident woman always remains positive.

She knows that the situation is just tempory.

Worrying about things that you cannot change does you no good.

You can always tell a woman who is positive because she always remains optimistic about her situation.

She does not worry about what others may or may not think about her because she is focused on her own life.

4. Knows when to say no

It’s hard to know when to say no to people but it is required.

If we continually say yes to other people all the time it can leave us feeling emotionally drained.

Sometimes when we choose to say no people can think bad of us as though we don’t want help but the truth is that the more we say yes to others the more we deny ourselves.

That’s not to say that we should be selfish but being a confident woman means that you know how to strike the right balance. When you do need to say no to someone you can do it without feeling bad.

Has set goals

I don’t know about you but every single confident woman that I know has set clear goals for their lives.

They are simply unshakable no matter what is being spoken about them.

They have a plan for what they want to do and have already laid out the steps for how they are going to get there.

If you want to be a confident woman make a plan for your life.  Don’t just sit back and let life happen to you.

Do the thing that makes you happy even if others think that you can’t possibly do it because you lack experience.

The only opinion that matters is the one that you think of yourself.

6. She knows her strengths and weaknesses

Every strong woman knows that she can’t be good at everything.  We all have limits.

Limits on our knowledge and limits on how many things we can get done in a day.

If you are a confident woman you know the art of delegation when you need it.

You know what you are good at and you focus on that. You don’t quit because you don’t know how to do something you find a way around the situation.

There is no option for you to simply quit. You are a force to be reckoned with so you always look for solutions to problems.

Yours Truly,
Kellen Kenlyn Nakaye
Author: “Journey to Wholeness; Learning to value yourself as a single lady”


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